Webinar: The Safe Place at Home

In moments of upset, we rely on our inner speech to help us regulate and manage our emotions. But too often, our inner speech aggravates the feeling instead. This inner speech doesn’t simply appear in adulthood. It’s built in early childhood as adults care for and respond to us in our upset moments.

In Conscious Discipline, the Safe Place helps us rewrite our inner speech, allowing us to write healthy inner speech for our children and teach them self-regulation and emotional management.

For children, the first Safe Place is in the arms of a parent. We must learn to manage our composure in order to provide this felt sense of safety to our children. Once the adult is a Safe Place, we can transition to a physical Safe Place where children can calm and practice self-regulation skills when upset. Ultimately, the goal is for children to create a Safe Place within themselves as they effectively manage their thoughts and feelings with healthy self-regulatory speech.

Join Conscious Discipline Certified Instructor and mother of two Nicole Mercer as she explains how to create and use a Safe Place in the home. Nicole answers frequently asked questions, guides you through the evolution of the Safe Place, and shares photos, videos, and powerful success stories from her own experiences.

Webinar Outline

00:28 Introduction to self-regulation and inner speech
02:18 Evolution of the Safe Place
03:25 Managing your own composure using S.T.A.R.
04:41 Video Clip: Nicole’s daughters explaining how angry voices feel
06:26 Transitioning from the adult to a physical Safe Place
06:45 Photo Example: First Safe Place in Nicole’s home
07:41 Difference between Safe Place and time-out
09:23 Photo Example: Safe Place in children’s rooms
09:46 Importance of starting Safe Place in common area
10:17 How to provide a Safe Place when kids aren’t at home
10:45 Photo Example: Mobile Safe Place
15:20 Video Clip: Grace calming self at doctor’s office before shot
17:30 Needing our first Safe Place (a person) in moments of big upset
23:10 The Safe Place journey begins with you
24:22 Video Clip: Hannah’s inner “Safe Place” now that she is in high school

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Nicole Mercer

Conscious Discipline Certified Instructor

Since beginning her journey in 2003, Nicole found Conscious Discipline offered positive solutions for the struggles she faced as a mother of two young girls, teacher, mentor and administrator. This, along with her passion for education, led her to become a certified instructor to further share the life-changing practices empowering parents and educators with skills to bring the best of who they are to classrooms and homes.

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