Providing Safety with Safekeeper Rituals and Agreements

As we transition to home learning, it’s crucial to remember: If children don’t feel safe and don’t feel loved, they cannot learn. Of course, you might wonder how to meet the developmental need for safety in these admittedly scary times.


If children don’t feel safe and don’t feel loved, they cannot learn. Of course, you might wonder how to meet the developmental need for safety in these admittedly scary times.


In this webinar, Certified Instructor Mara Spencer discusses how to use a Safekeeper Ritual, agreements and commitments to provide the safety that children need in order to learn. She explains what it means to be a Safekeeper and shares examples from her own home to help you get started.

To learn how you can also meet the fundamental need for connection, watch Mara’s webinar Connecting with Your Kids with I Love You Rituals.

Webinar Outline

  • 00:01 Introduction of Certified Instructor Mara Spencer
  • 00:27 Developmental need of safety
  • 00:39 Introduction of topic
  • 00:53 Safekeeper job description- What does it mean to be a Safekeeper?
  • 02:05 Mara’s family Safekeeper Ritual
  • 03:05 Safekeeper Agreements- What does “safe” look like? What do you need to feel safe while you’re learning at home?
  • 04:58 Supporting Safekeeper Agreements with visuals
  • 05:58 Commitments
  • 06:06 Did you do it or did you OOPS?
  • 07:13 Recap
  • 07:47 Additional ritual with Mara’s oldest child: Safekeeper Box
  • 08:47 Mara’s Wish Well and final thoughts

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