How to Use the S.T.A.R. Breathing Tool in the Toddler Bedroom

S.T.A.R. stands for Stop (or smile), Take a deep breath And Relax. S.T.A.R. breathing is essential to composure and self-regulation, and learning it can be fun! The S.T.A.R. Breathing Tool is a multi-sensory tool that teaches young children how to take a deep breath in through their noses as they smell the flower, then blow the air out of their mouths to make the pinwheel spin.

In practice, it looks like this: “Breathe in through your nose like this and smell the flower.” Demonstrate. “Now breathe out through your mouth like this and spin the pinwheel.” Demonstrate. Guide the child in taking a breath.

Making the pinwheel move may be difficult for young children. Encourage with phrases like, “You’ve almost got it.” “Blow your air out strong like this.” “Keep going, you’re nearly there!” When the child finally spins the pinwheel, exclaim, “You did it! You blew and blew until the pinwheel moved! That’s taking a deep breath!”

In moments of upset, offer the S.T.A.R. Breathing Tool as a relaxing choice. Affirm, “You’re safe. Breathe with me. You can handle this. Keep breathing,” as the child uses the tool to take deep, calming belly breaths.

The S.T.A.R. Breathing Tool is a helpful addition to your Safe Place Case.