Think of a time you have felt under attack or someone was placing blame on you for something that happened. In that moment, how willing were you to seek a solution to the problem at hand?
Fear and negative discipline strategies place children in the lower centers of their brain leaving them unable and unwilling to solve problems. When adults approach conflict and upset moments with children on the intention of love, we can guide children towards solutions and help them develop a healthy self-esteem.
In this episode learn to empower victims and teach bullies new skills supporting successful interactions between children. Utilize children’s tattling to teach assertiveness and problem solving. Join Dr. Becky Bailey in part 2 of 10 Principles of Positive Discipline.
- 41 minutes 48 seconds
- :11 Principle 5: see from the child’s point of view
- 5:27 Two states of being
- 7:30 Children are either asking for information or understanding
- 12:21 Principle 6: Clear, assertive communication
- 16:57 Difference between commands and requests
- 20:00 Ways to offer effective praise
- 21:53 Effect of withholding praise
- 23:18 Principle 7: view discipline as teaching
- 28:00 Responding to tattling
- 31:52 Principle 8: relationship is key to cooperation
- 34:19 Principle 9: Seek solutions, not blame
- 36:10 Principle 10: Communicate with the intention of Love
- Use children’s tattling as an opportunity to empower victims with an assertive voice and teach bullies missing social skills.
- Build connections with children to elicit more cooperation.
- Communicate with children with loving intention instead of blame and attack.
- There’s Got to be a Better Way: Discipline that works!
- The NEW Conscious Discipline Book – Expanded & Updated
- Shubert Picture Rule Cards
- Routine and Responsibility Cards
Helpful Next Steps
- Audio Series
- Online course with Dr. Becky Bailey – Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Schools and Homes