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Chapter 5: Assertiveness
Assertiveness Summary
- Power: Attention: What you focus on, you get more of
- Becoming Brain Smart: Attention directs neuroplasticity and all learning
- Skill: Paint for assertive commands, “I’m going to,” Tell and Show, “I don’t like it,” redirection
- School Family: M.A.P. Visual Routines, Visual Daily Schedule, Time Machine, Routine Books
Power of Attention
Noticing
Activity to Notice Instead of Judge
Sample Answers:
- Good job on the quiz, Jose!
- Transformed: Jose, you paid attention and worked hard all week, and then you answered every quiz question correctly!
- Karen, do you know how to ask for a turn?
- Transformed: Karen, you wanted a turn. When you want a turn, say, “May I have a turn, please?”
- Thank you for cleaning up the sink area.
- Transformed: Look at you! You wiped up all the water splashes and then threw the paper towels in the trash!
- A common judgment I make: You’re just stalling!
- What I could say instead: Your feet are shuffling like this.
Assertive Directions in a Third-Grade Classroom
Are Children Safe in Preschool?
Children Using Their Assertive Voices
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Conflict - Did You Like It Coaching
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Conflict Resolution in Bi-Lingual PreK Center
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Conflict - What's He Telling You
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Time Machine - Conflict Resolution in Special Needs PreK
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Time Machine - Outside Playground Conflict Resolution in PreK
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Time Machine - 1st Grade Conflict Resolution During Lineup
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Time Machine - Playground Conflict Resolved with BIG Voice
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Time Machine and Conflict - Please Use My Name