WEBINARS: Using Conflict To Teach Part 2 – How to Shift Intrusion and Revenge to Problem Solving with Jill Molli

Have you ever thought of tattling as a teaching tool? In the early childhood, children are programmed to bring their distress to adults for assistance. Adult responses in these moments teach trust or mistrust in authority. The three types of tattling are intrusion, revenge, and safety tattling.


Supporting children through intrusion tattling requires teaching assertive language.


Not all children have the confidence to teach others how they want to be treated. Modeling and coaching in these moments requires teaching children what their BIG voice sounds like, looks like, and feels like. Coaching children through revenge tattling requires adults help children transform hurtful actions into helpful interactions. Safety tattling is reporting safety issues to trusted adults. In these moments the adult’s job is to reaffirm the School Family job description of keeping the classrooms safe and assure children we will take care of it.

Join Conscious Discipline Master Instructor Jill Molli for Part 2 of the series on healthy conflict resolution skills and strategies. Learn effective responses to children’s tattling that teach compassion, forgiveness, assertiveness, and safety.

Webinar Outline

  • 00:20 Types of Conflict
  • 01:30 Responding to intrusive conflicts
  • 03:10 Responding to revenge seeking
  • 05:02 What our responses to tattling teach children
  • 06:05 Video Clip: The Time Machine
  • 08:50 Video Clip: Teaching assertiveness in the moment
  • 09:50 Skill Practice: teaching assertive language
  • 12:02 Assertive phrases by developmental age
  • 12:59 Bullies aren’t bad: language of positive intent
  • 14:40 Video Clip: what to do when children aren’t ready to solve the problem
  • 17:40 Skill Practice: responding to revenge tattling
  • 19:41 Skill Practice: Positive Intent
  • 23:30 Skill Practice: identifying types of tattling
  • 28:30 Video Clip: Words have power

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