“She bumped into me.” “He took my pencil.” “I saw a child hitting their mother when I was out the other day.”
There are three types of aggression and each requires a specific response to help children transform hurtful to helpful. Adding language to children’s experiences and actively teaching children about their feelings support the development of healthy self-esteem. Providing a safe place at home or school creates the opportunity for children to practice self-regulatory skills.
Join Dr. Becky Bailey for part two of this series as you learn to transform aggression into healthy self-esteem in yourself and your children.
- 53 minutes and 02 seconds
- :23 Responding to accidental aggression
- 6:50 Name children’s emotions for them
- 8:08 Instrumental aggression
- 13:19 Add language to the child’s experience
- 18:33 Effective consequences
- 23:35 Hostile aggression
- 27:30 Responding with structure and nurture
- 29:00 Safe Place story
- 36:09 The brain is pattern seeking
- 39:03 Provide anger control training
- 42:20 Actively teach children about their feelings
- 44:42 Limit aggressive models
- 45:50 Increase awareness of the harmful consequences
- 47:40 Summary
- When we don’t teach children what accidents are helps them grow up thinking people are doing stuff to them on
- Going to the victim first teaches we value healing.
- Once children have the skill for what we are asking them to do and choose not to use the skill, consequences can be effective.
- Respond to hostile aggression with structure and nurture.
- The Safe Place
- There’s Got to be a Better Way: Discipline that works!
- The NEW Conscious Discipline Book – Expanded & Updated
- Shubert Picture Rule Cards
- Routine and Responsibility Cards
Helpful Next Steps
- Audio Series
- New online course with Dr. Becky Bailey – Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Schools and Homes