Have you ever wondered how you find yourself in the same conflicts repeatedly? What do you tend to focus on when what you think should be doesn’t match what is?
Conflict begins within ourselves when we resist what is. When we don’t live up to who we think we are, we begin feeling not good enough. When we have feelings of not enough we begin trying to control others in some way. Acceptance is the key to conflict resolution.
Join Dr. Becky Bailey for a 2-part series in learning to maintain inner peace during conflict to model and teach cooperative strategies to children.
- 61 minutes
- 1:08 Squirrel story
- 2:00 Overview of topic
- 2:48 Thoughts and feelings we experience around conflict
- 5:28 The health of any system is its ability to resolve conflict
- 7:10 How we unconsciously create conflict
- 9:06 Two ways we resist what is
- 17:12 Biased perception of what should be
- 20:43 Core cause of all conflict
- 25:25 We can see what’s wrong or what needs to be done
- 27:57 Story of the Kindness Recorder
- 32:03 Getting out of the “not enough” trap
- 39:04 Bucket of race cars scenario
- 42:51 Resisting the moment we are in
- 51:31 Four conflict patterns
- Shift from focusing on what you don’t want to what you do want.
- Accept the moment as it is rather than stating what you think it should be or what should someone should be doing.
- Offer positive intent to yourself and others.
- There’s Got to be a Better Way: Discipline that works!
- The NEW Conscious Discipline Book – Expanded & Updated
- Shubert Picture Rule Cards
- Routine and Responsibility Cards
- Wish Well Board
Helpful Next Steps
- Audio Series
- Online course with Dr. Becky Bailey – Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Schools and Homes