Setting Limits Without Guilt

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Setting Limits Without Guilt

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“Put your toys in the basket, okay?” “Are you ready for bed?” “Do your homework now!” “Don’t make me take the phone away.” Do these sound like statements you frequently make to your children?

Adults tend to ask questions or make statement implying there is a choice when there really isn’t a choice. Or we rely on fear-based strategies to coerce or manipulate children into doing what we want. Understanding how young children develop, giving clear commands and setting clear expectations are important in limit setting with children.

Join Dr. Becky Bailey to discover how to shift from a reliance on guilt and fear to relying on love to discipline ourselves and children.

Total Runtime

51 minutes 20 seconds

Time Stamps

:36 Effects of relying on fear to discipline children
4:30 Side effects of relying on fear
7:18 Effects of stress on the body and brain
11:18 Ask a new question: How do I help my child more likely choose to ____?
13:57 Story: 4-year-old child who had trouble lining up
18:46 Power of knowledge: Understanding development of binocular vision
22:13 Development of inner speech
26:15 Young children encode information in pictures
30:59 “A Wonderful Woman Lived in a Shoe” I Love You Ritual
32:31 Power of Self Control to shift from fear to love
36:30 Take back your power with “I’m going to…”
38:36 Story of two kids in stroller
40:46 Be a S.T.A.R. program
42:10 “Peter, Peter” I Love You Ritual
43:27 Power of Attention
48:07 Power of connection

Key Take-a-ways

Relying on fear to discipline ourselves and others keeps us focused on what we don’t want, instilling the belief that we are not good enough.
Use pictures to communicate expectations
Focus on telling children what TO do
The motivation to behave comes from being in a relationship

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Helpful Next Steps

Audio Series
Online course with Dr. Becky Bailey – Conscious Discipline: Building Resilient Schools and Homes