Chapter 5: Assertiveness - Conscious Discipline
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Chapter 5: Assertiveness

Assertiveness is clear, vigilant communication that focuses children’s attention on what we want them to do. It is essential for setting effective and respectful limits.

Assertiveness Summary

Power: Attention: What you focus on, you get more of
Becoming Brain Smart: Attention directs neuroplasticity and all learning
Skill:

Paint for assertive commands, “I’m going to,” Tell and Show, “I don’t like it,” redirection

School Family:

M.A.P. Visual Routines, Visual Daily Schedule, Time Machine, Routine Books

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Power of Attention
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Noticing
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Activity to Notice Instead of Judge

Sample Answers:

  • Good job on the quiz, Jose!
  • Transformed: Jose, you paid attention and worked hard all week, and then you answered every quiz question correctly!
  • Karen, do you know how to ask for a turn? 
  • Transformed: Karen, you wanted a turn. When you want a turn, say, “May I have a turn, please?”
  • Thank you for cleaning up the sink area.
  • Transformed: Look at you! You wiped up all the water splashes and then threw the paper towels in the trash!
  • A common judgment I make: You’re just stalling!
  • What I could say instead: Your feet are shuffling like this. 
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Assertive Directions in a Third-Grade Classroom
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Are Children Safe in Preschool?
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Children Using Their Assertive Voices
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Seeing a Child's Need
 
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